Personal Growth-Controlling Responses From Negative Situations

Most of us have had our share of conversations gone wrong or a time when we did not Control Our Response From a Negative Situation.  After the fact, we are unhappy, mainly with ourselves and our inability to Control Our Response.  Life would not be life without some negative along the way; so we try to learn that sometimes there are certain actions, reactions, and words that should be left unacknowledged.  Easier said than done for certain and sometimes we refer to these times as using our inbuilt self control.

In our Personal Growth, Controlling Responses From Negative Situations is like anything else; it takes some work and it depends upon the individual.  It depends upon a person's Personal Growth level and their  ability to take a moment from the situation and analyze what has been said or done and possibly why.  Our first response is to defend ourselves, others and the situation, sometimes making excuses or just lashing out at the deliver of the negative.  We try without meaning to, to make ourselves the victim of the situation and one word or response sometimes leads to ugly things, either being said or done. We know this is not what gives anyone Character That Shines.  Of course we know that anyone who chooses to say negative things is also in the need of self control and Personal Growth. In our society, we have the rude people who sometimes are bullies who have never advanced toward adulthood or personal growth.

Gaining Emotional Intelligence (EI) is one of the first steps in Personal Growth.  If we are emotionally stable and are "in charge" of knowing who we are (which is one of the steps to emotional intelligence); we know that we should not respond quickly to people who are upset.  When someone is upset, rude, cruel, inconsiderate or just plain "inappropriate;" we give ourselves more power just to pass up the opportunity to response to anything being in these kinds of situations.  We take a deep breath, think things over and sometimes nothing said; says more than words.

There are times that it seems appropriate to put someone in their place by saying; you are being rude. But, actually the person who delivers these kinds of messages know they are being rude to begin with and you get more satisfaction by walking away from the rudeness and continue without acknowledging their bad behavior.  This is not a simple feat but most of the time best practice.  This makes you much more affective; causes others to respect your intelligence not to engage in child like behaviors.  You are setting an example which means that you are plowing the road to lead others to do the same.

Most quality leaders are emotionally stable people who know that their behavior controls the mood of the setting and when inappropriate statements or actions are made; it can cause the flow of the situation to worsen by responding to the negative.  It is not profitable to the companies bottom line nor to the rest of the group much less personally;  to let someone who has a personal growth need, to take control of the situation.

 Quotes:

"He who angers you conquers you."   - Elizabeth Kenny


"He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still." 
  - Tao Te Ching

"You have no control over what the other guy does, you only have control over what you do."  
  -A. J. Kitt

"Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control-these three alone lead life to sovereign power."  
  - Alfred Tennyson


"Prudent, cautious self-control, is wisdom's root." - Robert Burns